Ask your Higher Self/Soul, angels or spirit guides to help you. Ask them to show you the lesson you wanted to learn. It will be on your life blueprint. Your life blueprint is your roadmap through your present lifetime. It contains all the lessons, contracts and major events for your present lifetime, along with the people involved.

What is the contract I made with this person?

Ask to be shown the contract(s) you made to learn this lesson. If using the Formula to release one individual, ask for the contract that pertains to you and that person. There are usually many contracts with many people to learn the same lesson. The ratio of contracts to lessons varies depending on how long and how many lifetimes you have been trying to learn that particular lesson. The more lifetimes, the more present lifetime contracts for that lesson.

Remember that no one agrees to make a contract with you unless they too, need to learn the same lesson. In some cases the other person in your contract is there to learn the flip side of the lesson.

What is the role this person is playing to act out his/her part of the contract?

Ask to see and understand the role you play and the role the other person is playing in the contract. Ask for assistance in understanding how the roles look as they are being played out. I visualize a stage and myself as a actress and the other person as an actress/actor. It helps me to see the roles more clearly because I am able to view their behavior as a performance.

What is the aspect of myself this person is reflecting back to me?

Once again ask for assistance in seeing and understanding the aspect of yourself that the other person is reflecting back to you. They are your mirror, reflecting an aspect of yourself through their behavior. I have always found this step to be the hardest to handle. It calls for brutal self-honesty, but it's well worth the effort.
Sometimes, instead of reflecting an aspect of your behavior, they are reflecting something you judge. An example would be someone who steals from you. You may not be a thief but you may be judging thievery or people who are thieves.

What is the gift this person is giving me by playing their role?

Ask for help so you can see and understand the gift the other person is giving you by playing their role. The value I mentioned earlier is the value of the gift, and the gift is the lesson learned.

Once you have completed the first five steps, you should be feeling a surge of compassion and gratitude for the other person involved in the conflict/contract. If not, then go back to Step 1 and start over.
Sometimes it takes a few attempts before we finally get to the lesson we are working on. I find I usually know I've got it when I feel a warm feeling in my heart. It can be likened to a strong feeling of knowing like an Ah Ha! The final four steps are used to finish clearing and releasing the emotional negativity/garbage from the physical body, out through the high heart chakra.

The final four steps are used to finish clearing and releasing the emotional negativity from the physical body, out the high heart chakra.

When I think of the high heart chakra, I envision an invisible cone shaped device imbedded in my auric field. It attaches to my physical body just above my heart and below my collarbone. When I use the Formula it opens so the transmuted energy/compassion can move through it and out.

It is my understanding that the high heart chakra performs the same function as the colon/anus and bladder/urethra in the physical body. Both perform functions of elimination for waste/toxic matter. The only difference is that the physical system eliminates dense physical matter and the high heart chakra eliminates etheric matter.

Can I accept the role that this person has played, along with their actions, to help me learn this lesson?

Acceptance is one of the four elements of unconditional love. Acceptance is part of compassion and is unconditional love in action. This also includes acceptance of who the person is, without judgment.

I find that, when I am having a hard time with this step, I can clear it when I remember they are a soul in a body like me, and we are helping each other with a lesson.

Can I allow myself to let go of my anger towards this person who played the role to help me learn the lesson?

Allowance is also one of the four elements of unconditional love. Allowance is part of compassion and is unconditional love in action. This includes allowing the person to be who they are and to follow their chosen path, regardless of how you feel about it.

Usually, by the time I reach this step, I find it very easy to let go of my anger towards the person because I am feeling the gratitude and compassion that comes from seeing the pain they suffered in playing their role for me. An example of this would be the Global Elite. Do you have any idea what kind of life they lead. Have you read about how their training starts in the womb? They are beaten, starved and subjected to horrifying experiences in order to suppress their emotions and create multiple personalities. They have no joy or freedom. They are prisoners in their own world and the only way out for them is death. We are so much luckier because we still have access to our emotions.

On another note: Allowance is easier to do when we let go of needing to control someone's behavior or choices for their own good. We tend to control people out of fear that their actions will hurt them/and or us. If we understand that everything has a value, then we can begin to release our need to control because we understand that there will be a value in each and every outcome.

Can I release this person from blame?

This one is easy when you understand that you are not a victim. On the contrary, you are an active participant in a contract and lesson that you helped set up.

Taking responsibility for your part in the contract enables you to release the other person from blame for the role they played to help you learn the lesson you wanted to learn. You understand that just as you are not a victim, nor are they a villain. Devin, my 9D guide, has told me many times that it is much harder to play the role of a villain than it is to play the role of a hero.

Releasing someone from blame is different than forgiving them. Forgiving someone is what we do when we feel they have sinned against us, as in being victimized. Release is the key element in the Formula. The release is created by your compassion for the other person.

Now that I have released this person, can I be kind to him/her, and if so, how can I do it and when will I do it?

At this point you should be feeling the intensity of the release through the high heart. I find the degree of the feeling differs according to the emotional intensity of the issue. The more emotionally charged the issue, the more intense the release.

I have found, as have others, this step to be the most emotional step. I am filled with gratitude and compassion when I reach this step and my only thought is how to make amends and thank them.

These last two parts are very important and I encourage you to complete them as quickly as possible since the process will not be complete until you do. A letter or phone call to the person to say thank you for the lesson will do. I find that sharing the lesson I learned from them goes a long way in healing the pain we both felt.

Caution! Don't take them through the Formula. They won't understand you and will usually become angry and defensive unless they know the Formula too.

Once you have completed the Formula, then it is time to do something with the contract. The contract is energy like everything else, so you can change its form into something else, sort of like working with Leggos.

I usually envision the contract dissolving into a thousand pieces of light energy, and then I send that energy to someone who is ill to assist in their healing. On other occasions I deposit it into an energy account I have created to manifest one of my desires like a new house or something. You can also deposit it someone else's account to assist them in manifesting one of their desires.

Anyway, this is where I can have a little fun with the contract and be creative. A positive ending to a painful lesson, don't you think?